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Scared People

Its a been a long time i haven’t post a blog here… My first blog i want to post is about Scared People, I find it very interesting and it really help me a lot ..Its a writing of my favorite author..,..

” I have wanted to write about people who have been hurt by love.These are the people who have tried to reach out and do their best in love, but who have been hurt by the misunderstanding or the inability of others to love in return. Our world is full of them. For some of them,the hurting in love has frightened them into giving up trying to love anymore.For others, at the very least,it has become harder for them to love again.

Many years ago, Fr. Charles Cook called the “the scared people”. They have been scarred by thier encounters in love, and for some of them,the pain is still there.In a beautiful little article, Fr. Cook imagined a dialogue between the Lord and one of these scared people. It goes something like this:

MAN: ” I’ve seen a number of movies lately, Lord like Romeo and Juliet.The love of young people,at least in these movies,is beautiful,so simple, so total,so uncomplicated. They seem so natural, so free in thier emotions,so clear in thier feelings.I wish I could be like that, Lord! But I can’t be! Why is it so? Its beacuase I have been hurt , Lord! I have trusted people and they have betrayed me at times.Many times I have loved and received absolutely nothing in return.I have tried hard to care, and failed- many times. I have shared my secrets with people and heared them whispered to others. A lot of times i have asked for forgiveness because I have hurt someone, and have gotten no response from them at all, only a cold shoulder and silence.I have tried to be nice to people and have gotten only an indifferent stare in return. I’ve been through it, Lord. I’ve fallen on my face so many times. I’ve been banged my shins..I’ve been bruised. Look, Lord, I’m all covered with scars!”

THE LORD: ” Maybe you really haven’t understood deeply enough.Maybe you haven’t learned yet that human life is like that.Life is full of scars.I was scarred. My mother was scarred.All the saints were scarred in one way or another. Because of all the romance around us, we forget that young love isn’t the highest form of love at all.The greatest love comes not from young people, but from scared people. I know that many people stop loving so that won’t be hurt and scarred again.But those people who do try again,who get up and start over again,who continue is spite of all the scars,who leave themselves open to the possibility of being hurt again– these people,the scared people,are able to love in a deeper way, a more understanding way, a richer and warmer way.”

MAN: “I think I know what you mean, Lord. I have met people like that- scarred people who keep on loving- and knowing them gives me courage to try again.the great people,the great lovers are those who continue to love with all their scars. i like scared people, Lord. Scarred people are beautiful!”

Love is a strage commodity indeed, beacuse with all its goodness,there is so much hurt mixed in with it. One of the old songs says: “you always hurt the one you love, but you wish never to hurt” The cross is the world’s greates symbol of love—-“Greater love than this no man has”—but it is also a symbol of suffering. Love is only one side of the coin. On the other side, there always seems to be suffering and hurt. I guess that is what life is all about… Scarred people who keep on loving in spite of the pain are beautiful.

I hope  it helps this post to you….


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I always remember what my mom used to tell me about her life when I was a kid. She said, ”  Life is very short. Its just like yesterday when I was a little girl, I used to water our eggplants and feed our pigs every morning and afternoon. I  still remember when I was in high school,all my friends that i used to hang out with,. I remember how my younger brother Nedi tease me all the time and make me cry.

Now, im 36 and blessed with a  good husband and 5 lovely daughters. I don’t know when I die, but life is very short.  One year after,my mom died….. She wasn’t ill or anything, she just had a sudden heart failure. We are all very down and depressed that time.

Every time I remember what my mom told me, It reminds me how important each time we spend in our life. Each year, month, day, hour, minute, and second we live. Every moment is a chance to live better, to live happy and to live more better person than we are yesterday.

If you are to ask, What if tomorrow you will die? Are you ready?What would be your answer?

Probably most of us would say,  I’m not ready, I still have a lot of things I wanna do in my life,, my dreams and plans, I still need to show and say I love you to my mom and dad, brother and sister, my wife and children and friends. Some say,I need to reconcile to somebody.Others may say I still want to travel to Italy or Paris, in Rome and other great places. I’m not ready, I never went confession yet and Im never been a better person for the past years, I still need to say sorry to some people… And many other reasons….

Sometimes we forget that we are only borrower of our life, and that we abused our chances. We always spend much more time on this earthly things than our own family. We worries a lot about things that will come to pass… And  more sad when we  see people who step ones right and dignity for sake of this earthly things. Every life is significant in each different way. Its a gift from God. We only live our life once, so we ought to do our best as we could while we are still here.We will not come back when tomorrow we will die.

Its very beautiful to imagine when we are old  and dying, when we have done all the best things in our life, when there are people surround us  that always there to love and care for us. People who always there through good  and bad times.

Spend more time with your family, show them how much you love them… Don’t waste time, for we never know tomorrow we may die.

Do a little act of love and kindness each day and you will see how beautiful life will be when you are love by people surrond you.

Ask forgiveness to all people  you offended and you will find peace. Try not to worry too much and learn how to surrender everything to God. And trust Him, for He satisfy our needs.

If you have live in sins for many years, repent and do your best to stay away from sins from now on…. If you don’t want to change your life now,then when? When you have very little time left ?Or might be too late in the future.  Now, is the right time. Change your life, live happily, live with peace and love, and you will see how great your life is.

And when your dying you can say to yourself ,I’m ready.I lived my life to fullest.

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Follow Your Heart

          I was reading my favorite book “The Mustard Seed” today and it makes a very beautiful reflection for me..

         I know the sun will rise every morning, even there are clouds,I know the birds sing melodious songs because I have heard them from the empty enclosure of my room. I know the sky is blue through the clouds,that the grass is green even I stand in the desert.I know the branches of tress dance to the movements of the wind even though now the wind is still.I know flowers have beautiful smells,that the ocean never sleeps and that rain falls upon high mountains.I know deeply all human beings are beautiful if they are born free to follow there hearts.

         It has been said,long before these words were written,that if you build an archway for your heart,with neither lock nor door,life will pass freely through that archway in harmony with your senses.

         Touch your friends, your husband or wife, and they are strangers no more.Hold them as you would touch the delicate petals of an orchid, or put your hand in a gentle stream, or feel the sand beneath your feet, or climb upon the rocks and crags on the shoreline.

         Listento their words, their breathing, their heartbeat, their footsteps on the stairway or at the door as they come to you, as you would listen to the rain, or to the cock crowing in the early morning, or at the bark of a dog, or the cascading of a waterfall or a tiny breeze.

         Seethe expressions on their faces of their different moods. See in their eyes the longing for love, companionship and a meaning in their lives. See  their body move, uniting themselves with life. See their hands create their being, as you would see a quite pool, the splash of a wave, a new portrait made by falling rain, the landscape of a valley, the changing of the sunset.

        Speak to them of love, of the harmony of nature, of quite understanding among men, of the simple things in life in which one can find peace of the truth you have found,as you would speak to God.

        Ride the crest of the waves to the shore. Follow the river till it merges with the ocean. Look at the clouds till they disappear. Watch the sunrise trace its path across the sky,then vanish.

         When you have experience these things, you will know your heart . Follow it.  When you have freed yourself from the dogma and conditioning of society, where will you go? To those things you love.

         Let your mind and your action explode,with awareness as you light yor forgotten lanterns of happiness, as you find a peaceful clearing in the jungle of our society.

         Love is everywhere. It is in the night where the stars smile. It is in the field of rice dancing in the wind. It is in the waves sculpturing the rocks. It is in the sound of music, in man’s creation of art. It is a seed nourished by two human being. Love will find you and you will find love — if love becomes your attitude.


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